Update 4 (Aug. 2023):
I wrote this long ago and no longer agree with it. I in fact strongly disagree with it.
Instead of taking it down I think it is important to leave it up and give a quick run-down of why I no longer agree with it.
First, it would be awesome if people had more compassion for those who have differing points of view, even if those points of views are hurtful. In 2008 people who were against Prop 8 referred it as Prop. H8. I promise that I had no hateful intentions underlying my reasoning for the above, just a genuine concern for what I felt was a fundamental underpinning of something that makes our society and culture strong. Arguing with me at that time and telling me I was ‘for hate’ was a great way for me to stick to my opinions.
How have my thoughts changed? The core premise of my argument was that, all things being equal, the two people that would have the most biologically driven reason to ensure the success of a child would be the biological parents. Codifying that into law, in theory, would set up the ideal situation to ensure a strong society through ideal child rearing. But, here is the thing, that is just a mental exercise that has no real bearing on people’s reality. When it comes to human behavior the ‘all things being equal’ is a useless framing of an argument that is trying to intellectualize a reality that doesn’t exist. My past self would have argued with this point through further intellectualizing… but I still made the transition with the help of my life’s experiences.
Empathy, compassion, and community are some of the core virtues that should rise to the top when considering how a successful and thriving society should operate. Successful families can come in many forms, but the common thread of these families isn’t biology, it is the virtues mentioned above that underly all thriving human relationships. At times, these virtues can go against our biological driven reactions, but are none the less critical for us, all of us, to thrive. Truley we should strive to rise above our base biology for the betterment of our species.
Further, to publicly deny people who love each other the opportunity to express that love and share it with a child is a terrible, horrible, thing. Despite my past intentions… there is no empathy or compassion there and I can really see why opponents of Prop. 8 felt the way they did. However, compassion from all sides, for all sides, is what is needed for us to work together for a better future.
Hopefully this will help those who are still conflicted about this issue and give insight to those who always disagreed with my original arguments.
Original Post
This November 4th in California there is a Proposition on the ballot to reinstate marriage as between on man and one woman. This is Proposition 8. This blog post is my reasons for voting yes on proposition 8.
Here is some history.
In March of 2000 Californians passed Proposition 22 which clarified the California family code that marriage is between one man and one woman. Prop 22 passed with a 61% of the vote. In May of this year the California Supreme Court overturned Proposition 22 by citing that there was no legitimate basis to discriminate based on sexual preference and declared Proposition 22 unconstitutional. This is a direct assault on our sovereignty and authority as a democratic-republic.
So now we have Proposition 8 which is set to amend the California Constitution to clarify, again, that marriage is specifically between one man and one woman.
I agree with many of the arguments for Prop. 8, however I think many the arguments don’t go far enough to explain why we should keep marriage between man and woman. This is my attempt to explore my reasons for voting yes on 8.
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